Comments on: What is Synchronicity? the practical spirituality of unconditional love Tue, 27 Jul 2010 11:12:14 +0000 hourly 1 By: vector8 Mon, 10 May 2010 18:05:47 +0000 Perseus, one thing I’m curious about is who is thinking whom? Is your ex thinking you or are you thinking are? As you are connected anyway, it seems like whenever you think of her she’ll think or you; and vice versa.

Maybe you need to discuss if do want to get back together or whatever.

Anyway, I wish both of you all the very best.

With love,

ps: Your synchronicity experiences remind me of this quote:

“Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires.” Francois de La Rochefoucauld

By: Perseus Mon, 10 May 2010 08:31:04 +0000 Hi, Enocia.

Thank you for the reply.

Well, the same thing just happened the other day. I was heading to the library and as I was looking at an attractive woman, my ex walks by me.

I looked at her and she stared at the ground. I didn’t say anything and she went to wherever she was going to.

A couple of hours later I’m sitting on a bench reading a book. Out of nowhere I look up and I see my ex with a female friend walking by and staring at me.

When our eyes locked, she become startled and looked the other way.

So, in a day, for no reason at all:

First situation she walks some 2 inches by me, staring at the ground.

In the second situation she’s staring at me when I couldn’t see her.

How and why I stopped reading to look at exactly her sure beats me.

I did look occasionally at the people walking by but, I could have easily missed her/not seen her/not look up at that precise moment.

And the usual continues to happen.

If I’m reading a book, her name appears.

If I’m watching a movie, her name or someone who looks like her shows up.

Just yesterday my mother wanted to say one thing(I believe it was the name of a city) and what came out of her mouth was the name of the city my ex lived for awhile.

It also happens that, my mother befriended a young man. He has a daughter and my mother, when she sees the child, instead of saying her name?

She says my ex’s name. Not one time. Not two. Several times this happened.

There’s something I can’t get through my thick head.

As I’ve said before, I’ve had crushes.

Serious crushes. If memory serves me well, I actually had stronger feelings for another female and though things didn’t work out with that woman in particular I never suffered 1% of the Synchronicity I’m experiencing with this ex.

I even happened to end up in the same school with a woman I had feelings for, that’s a bit of synchronicity but nothing similar to whats happening right now.

The strangest thing is that I thought quite a lot about the other women. My feelings for them were strong, maybe stronger than the feelings I had for my most recent ex and still, these things only happen with my ex?

I don’t get it. I thought about them far more than I thought about my current ex. And nothing. If Synchronicity happened it was so little that It completely missed my attention.

I also have another question.

Even if a relationship is broken up by the girlfriend or the girlfriend(or both), they will keep finding each other unexpectedly/thinking about each other, and all the other synchronicity happening – until they start talking to each other again?

I forgot to mention something about that time I was at the bus stop and saw her in one of the buses.

Three hours before that, I text message a friend of mine asking him if he wanted to spend some time with him.

I waited some 20 minutes for the answer. Since I saw no reply I went back to sleep. My first action when awoken was to check my cellphone out.

There was a text message from him, telling me that he was free. I replied and he called me.

Now here’s the kicker. We live 2 minutes away from each other.

If I had stayed awake, I would’ve seen the text message when he sent it to me and instead of going to my ex’s city(My friend was in our city but then decided to go there) I wouldn’t have seen her and she wouldn’t have seen me.


1) we would probably hang out in his house.

2)I wouldn’t have been in my ex’s city when her bus arrived.

And another thing.

Years before I met my girlfriend, I went to school with a guy who was a good friend of the boyfriend of one of my ex’s female friends.

Talk about coincidences.

Another funny thing is that another ex classmate of mine, and the father of yet another ex classmate of mine, have their houses near her own.

On the same street, I believe.

I met a guy through a friend and was I surprised when I arrived at his place.

Her house was a few meters down the road.

All of this would be rather funny if the matter wasn’t so serious.

Anyway, sorry about the length of the post. Sorry for taking so long to reply and thanks for replying.

I too hope to find peace.

By: vector8 Sat, 01 May 2010 09:21:17 +0000 Wow Perseus, what a story! Thank you so much for sharing.

It sounds to me like you have a lot of unfinished business with your ex if your feelings are that strong that you keep attracting each other.

I believe as long as you keep thinking about her, you’re going to keep attracting her or symbols of her.

Perhaps, you both need to go for it and see where it takes you.

Whatever you decide, I wish you peace.


By: Perseus Sat, 01 May 2010 06:54:45 +0000 Sorry, just wanted to add some few details.

When I saw my ex in the subway, she was wearing a skirt. She very rarely wore a skirt before she met me but when I told her that I loved seeing her in one, she started wearing them.

Its more likely that she’s dating someone who enjoys skirts too or she ended up enjoying skirts but, it still hurts like hot fire. To see your girlfriend with a skirt – when you love skirts?

Strange coincidence.

And, when I said that I remember some my dreams under this sleep pattern:

I meant when I go to bed at 1pm in the morning in wake up at 1 in the morning.


By: Perseus Sat, 01 May 2010 06:48:43 +0000 This is a rather lengthy post:

I’m not sure why I’m writing this. A relationship of mine was ended by my then ex, years ago.

I didn’t take it lightly. The next few months weren’t easy but I eventually came to terms with it.

Well, right now I can afford spending much of my time inside my house. Thus, I rarely go out. My ex, lives in another city, its near where I live.

And, with all that size, with all the people I have never seen in the countless years I’ve lived near, I probably never crossed the street with most of those individuals.

Yet, when I go out, to that City, and I feel uneasy – sort of like a weird sensation in my stomach – I end up seeing her.

Out of the blue. I’m either looking at the ground or looking at something/someone else and my body directs itself into looking at where she is.

Without possibly knowing where she is; that she could be there. That she is there.

And she, also turns from where she is, and looks at me.

I don’t understand this. Our relationship ended. I accept that and I make my best effort to forget about her but, even when I went to visit another woman I was courting, the night before I went, I dreamed about my ex.

Again, I woke up with that uneasy feeling. I prepare my things and I head to that city. The same thing happens again.

I had the weird feeling in my stomach again. I even confused several females for her because they look so alike, and they had the same height, skin colour, hair colour and hair length.

I finally arrived at where I was supposed to go and now comes the funny part.

Where I was supposed to be at, where I went to, was located in another city, a city far away from my ex’s city.

I spent a few hours with the woman I was courting and when it was time to return home, I took the subway.

Oddly, as I was talking to a friend on the phone, I missed the lines and I ended up in a line I never use.

I enter that train, because I had to return to the original station so I could pick my correct line, and as I exit the train, I look to the inside of the now filled train and I see my ex girlfriend.

She was staring at the floor. But she looked exactly at me when I looked at her and she was startled, looked at the ceiling and then looked at me again until the train departed.

A couple of months prior to that, maybe a month, I had to go to her city so I took the bus.

I took a place on the left side of the train, away from the bus stops.

But when we’re passing by the bus stop near where she lives, I instantly look at the bus stop and I see her talking to someone.

I have a very strange sleep pattern. When I sleep like most people sleep(from 10 pm to 7am) I can recall most of my dreams.

I’ve noticed that the few dreams I can remember under this sleep pattern, I dream with her. And when it’s not a dream, I hear her name out of the blue.

Say, I go out to buy some fish and first thing I hear is some mother calling her daughter, who happens to have my ex’s name.

I hear her name all the time. I read her name all the time. Its not like her name is the most popular. Or maybe it was and before I met her I never took notice. I don’t know.

I do know that, I am reading something on the internet and her almost exact birth date(month and day) comes up.

And this happens a lot. Or its just her date that appears, or her month. Sometimes its her birth year.

Sometimes I’m just listening to the radio and there’s some mention of her adopted hometown. Or, I’m browsing books and “our” book appears out of nowhere.

Just the other day, I dreamed I was in Sweden, being tutored by a very educated older gentleman. He had granddaughter, a very charming young woman.

Totally the opposite from my ex(hair colour, personality etc) but, the old man treated her with an endearment I used to use on my ex girlfriend.

I don’t know for sure if that dream just came to be or if I shaped it, but if the latter is the truth, why would I do that?

If its not any of that, its something like someone having teeth that resemble her own or, even stranger, meeting someone that very much like her when she was small.

Or seeing someone who remind me so much of her. Like today. I went to see a friend at her city. Irritably, I felt the stomach feeling again.

I passed a woman who looked almost exactly like her, except this one was a little taller, skinnier and had a different style of dress.

When I go down to meet my friend in downtown, I happen to look at a passing bus(I very rarely look at the people inside the bus stop) and I see two females and a guy.

The guy looked at me, then the female nearest the window saw me and stared at me for several seconds then looked on.

It was my ex.

Look, I just don’t understand this. I’ve been in relationships before. I’ve had my heart damaged before.

I had a major crush over a girl and it eventually went away, no weird coincidences, no strange feelings in my stomach though I did saw her once out of the blue and it was because I felt like looking that way.

But this woman, something about her just completely made my head upside down.

Maybe the strangest thing was how we met. I met her in England. I thought she was British. Turns out, she was not only from my Country, she was originally from my exact hometown.

Worse, she was/is friends with a woman my grandmother befriended and she, my ex, lived some 3 minutes away from where I lived most of my life.

We grew up very close, without maybe never seeing each other and then, when she goes away to another Country, I meet her?

She played where I played as a kid, she walked where I walked as a kid, and I meet her at such a far away place.

Where is the sense in this?

Why, of all the females in this planet, why this?

Relationships end. Its just the way they are. She probably has a boyfriend now and her life is set in a different path from mine. I can accept that.

I’ve resigned myself to never seeing her again and that’s ironic because I saw her/I was with her, far more times when she lived so far away from me, than now, that she lives in that town, so close to mine.

So close, so far, heh?

At the end, we destroyed something really special. I know, this is cliche, but it was.

We were both very inexperienced(first girlfriend/first boyfriend) and I made several mistakes which probably led to the dismisses of this summer’s day.

I don’t regret what we had, what we shared and what we went through. I grew up thanks to her and I’m proud that she grew up too, because of me.

I just want these dreams, this “bumps into each other,” I want to stop hear her name, and all those other coincidences to go away.

She was sweet, and she was full of life. Exactly what I needed when I met her, though it seems I no longer have a need for that in my life since she’s here no more.

So why all of this?

I would like to meet with her again. I would love to heal our friendship. We started as very good friends and I miss that special friendship, which I never really developed with anyone ever before and ever since.

Not even with my best friend.

But if that’s not possible, I just want peace and quiet and have these coincidences die out so I can move on too.

But there’s something. Something that is just so close at hand but I can’t reach it. When we met, it was like everything was in tune.

There was something about her sadness that made me compassionate – I’m very rarely prone to emotions and I’ve seen pretty bad sights in my life.

Sadly, we were both so immature, and what we had was lost. She’s my only regret in a life that had quite a few situations worthy of the word regret.

The absurd is, I had feelings for this woman and maybe I still have. But she was – not by a long shot – the first female I had feelings for, but, regardless of how strong of a ‘crush’ I had for the other females, there was never this sadness that I feel now for what we had with my ex, and for what was lost.
Thanks. I needed to talk. Sorry for the long post.

And at least I learned a lesson: never get romantically involved with a friend.

There’s too much at risk, that’s how I think now anyway.

By: vector8 Tue, 07 Oct 2008 11:05:01 +0000 Hi Publicprivate,

I can so relate to your experience with your ex fiancee. Sometimes that happens with people I feel close to the most. My thoughts are their thoughts and vice versa. It also shows that we are never apart from those we love.

Thank you so much for sharing.

All the best to you.
Enocia :-)

By: publicprivate Mon, 06 Oct 2008 16:02:43 +0000 I have had synchronicity with other people before, but the ones I keep having with my ex fiancee/college sweetheart are least to me. We are in two different fields, but my work sent me to his old office. They all remembered me, even though I only met them once or twice.

Later, he and I were on different college campuses taking classes and ran into each other. From then on, I avoided going in that direction.

Finally, my dh and I almost moved into a neighborhood (in a major city with lots of suburbs), but something prevented me from doing so. Later he moved into the very same neighborhood.

We moved to the other coast and his wife and I joined the same internet list. We have never met or know anything about each other. She writes me now.

Oh well. Must be a small world afterall. Good luck to you!

By: catherine walker Tue, 31 Jan 2006 03:09:17 +0000 Hi, I’m catherine and have blog site called “Synchronicity and Soup”.I have my paintings on the site and I tell true stories about synchronistic moments in my life..some of them amazing, like yours. I really enjoyed this site
G.L with it all and come and visit my blog one day soon
regards catherine walker

By: Enocia Wed, 09 Feb 2005 10:07:31 +0000 Hello Lopp,

I can only tell you about what I know to be true: that you are Love, infinite Good, Perfection, Truth, Joy, Bliss, Life and Freedom. You are eternal i.e. beginningless and endless. How can you have a childhood when you were never born? Your childhood is a dream, your dream. If I were to tell you about your childhood, I would be lying to you. This I cannot do.

With love,
Enocia :-)

By: Lopp Benard Tue, 08 Feb 2005 09:31:17 +0000 I believe you know about me.Tell me about myself please but do not tell me my future.Tell me about my childhood.

By: Enocia Wed, 10 Nov 2004 19:45:53 +0000 Hello Susan, I so love hearing stories like these about demonstration of omnipresence. It is our real nature. Thank you so much for sharing your story and so glad about the outcome. I use telepathy all the time. It works.

Love to you and Stan, Enocia

By: Susan Kramer Wed, 10 Nov 2004 09:55:28 +0000 Enocia, thanks for bringing up the aspect of omnipresence in your article on synchronicity on November 9, 2004. One of my most useful experiences occurred between my father, my brother and I.

During the event, my father was in Maryland, my brother in Jamaica, and I was in California.

My father phoned me and said my brother was on a missionary trip in Jamaica and hadn’t been heard from in 3 months. My father asked me to mentally contact my brother and ask him to phone our dad at home – he said he knew I could do it.

With the faith of my father behind me, I mentally extended the thought to my brother to phone our father from Jamaica, and that very afternoon my brother did phone our dad.

After that experience I feel sure that our thoughts are everywhere, and if the intention is strong with faith, they can move mountains – at least they moved my brother to phone home!