Imagine an identity suddenly wakes up from hibernation. On gaining consciousness it finds that it is all alone as if a child gets up and finds that there is no body around (like its mother). Finding itself alone it is afraid for a moment and the next moment the idea occurs that when there is nobody else there’s nobody to be afraid of. It happens to exclaim: “I exist”. Then a sound comes, “Yes, thou art there”. It is surprised and searches the source from where the response came. We, the people in the world, are the ones who break His aloneness and drag Him to feel duality, while naturally ours and His existence are eternal.
Among ourselves, mortal beings, the physical body, behaviour, outlook, priorities, affections, emotions, etc. are continuously changing. In such a situation, two like-minded persons may remain associated as long as they are able to protect their common interests. Also, each one of us is in the habit of finding faults with others and blames and curses them behind their back.
In such a situation, truly speaking, no worldly relation exists between you and I steadily for a desired period, or as per wishes. All relations are subject to a sort of tug-of-war of self-interests. Secondly, there is no guarantee to sustain a relationship strongly and lively between the two forever, as one of them may depart from the world leaving the other all alone.
Normally, when we (you and I) develop a relationship, we hardly think that it will end one day. Now, to establish a steady relationship, I have to take care of you, for my sake. But first let me know who I am. In self-realization ‘I’ is found as a non-physical identity and there is no existence of ‘you’. Hence, there is no question of I relating with you. It is only afterward that duality is automatically developed in which I help you as my own self with utmost love and care.
How do I do it? First of all, I make you free to choose your course of life, and then open my cards about the kind of relationship I am going to have with you. My intention is to treat you with love and affection for my own happiness. Since you are free to behave in your own way, either to accept me or reject me, in my heart there should remain kind feelings forever (Please see my article: Unconditional Love – not without conditions).
A difficult proposition to follow in practical life! But it seems that this kind of love has its roots in the beginning of the creation of the universe, making it a world of duality.
God is compassionate toward His creation as proclaimed by most of the saints in diverse countries based on their own experience and without any personal grudge. The saint is mingled with that universal I, and then he is taking care of you (we all together – living and non-living).
Now the situation is that God wishes to meet us and we all search for Him individually. Both, He and we don’t know that there is no separation, but we keep finding each other. He heard us in the beginning and now we hear Him in the moments of agony or when we suddenly feel His grace. We hardly meet Him physically (in flesh and body). However, some devotees have enjoyed His Company or played with Him for some duration as if He is made of a solid body (Please see my article: Dreams coming true – Part III). But such company may not remain for long and it is not under our control.
Among ourselves we remain together for a long time, but we don’t understand each other’s true nature and intentions. There are many distinctions that have sprung up and divide us in many ways. Each group or individual believes that their views are the best and true.
Considering this state of living beings, then what about understanding our life force in the form of consciousness leaving all philosophical speculations? You and I could best relate through understanding the relationship between God and nature, of which mankind is the best creation, and thereby deriving the elixir of life.
The best option for improving ‘I’ would be to search personal shortcomings inside for their removal, and look for good qualities in others instead of finding faults with them. It will help to make ‘you’ an embodiment of good qualities, and then shape my own self accordingly. Each member is not complete, but rather with fragments of goodness, and I gain completeness by removing my shortcomings and adopting and practicing the essential goodnesss of each.
Hence ‘you’ are observed with all the good qualities necessary for spirituality and then copied into ‘I’. In fact, our mind is a mirror in which our true self is viewed and the mirror shows this image on the basis of what we observe in others.
SP Sharma, India