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posted by: Isabella ® 02/23/2009, 17:06:00 |
Hello everyone,
I am struggling with quite a tough issue: i think it's depression. I am not sure about that but my life is feeling worse each day, the reasons to me are lack of appreciation and loneliness and also not knowing the real goal in life and how to be a better person. the worst is that I am very much missing appreciation and credit for my deeds... the world is grey and im stuck and i have no contact with god or a higher self anymore, i just cant find it anymore. i would so much like to get back to confidence and happiness, enjoying things and be thankful, i want to live way more deeply and not just hope for an end. any suggestions how i can deal with that?
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posted by: Stan ®
02/23/2009, 22:02:21
Dear Isabella,
When I seem to be drowning in a storm of my own thoughts, I need to approach the situation in a very practical, matter-of-fact way.Being unhappy always means I'm taking myself far too seriously. There's nothing wrong with that — it's not a sin — it just doesn't feel good, which in itself can be interpreted as a simple sign to acknowledge.
It's my interpretation that makes me feel what I feel.
If I don't like my feelings I have to let go of my interpretation — just like that, ruthlessly, in total surrender.
The basic interpretation that makes everybody unhappy is the thought of separation in all its myriad disguises.
Every dividing or opposing thought reinforces the unhappiness of separation.
The mind is already one forever, so every time I remember not to take my own thoughts too seriously the mind is allowed to fulfill me with its natural wholeness.
Wholeness provides me with a totally different interpretation resulting in feelings of peace, happiness and love.
Wasn't that my original purpose? Why did I try to create my own form of personal happiness when the totality of Heaven is already mine for eternity?
Heaven is given as my natural state of mind but hell has to be forged by me out of nothing, every little moment again, just to make myself seem right and the other wrong.
It's so utterly useless but it serves the purpose of feeling separate and special, which is what the ego needs me to feel in order to perpetuate itself as the illusion in which I'm trapped.
I'm not the ego and it only takes my willingness to become aware of the whole situation. Becoming aware is like a convalescent who discovers the beauty of life again after a grave illness.
I probably will fall sick again, and again, but that's why I'm here: to find an excuse for becoming aware in everything that seems to happen to me.
Who wouldn't laugh wholeheartedly who finds himself remembering a long forgotten joy?
Modified by Stan at Mon, Feb 23, 2009, 22:08:29
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posted by: Isabella ®
02/24/2009, 08:59:07
wow thank you that's an intelligent answer. i absolutely know what you mean. thanks man.
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posted by: Joe Egan ®
09/03/2009, 11:30:55
Hi Isabella. I know your post is 6 mths out of date but I've just found this site so forgive me if this is no longer relevant. First I suppose I hope you have already received responses that have provided the help that you were looking for. Second, the part of your post which struck me is the part you identified as 'the worst' missing appreciation and credit for your deeds.
It is very honest of you to state that clearly and it is important to understand where you are (or were in Feb). It's also important to honour your experience whether it appears to be a negative one or not, you have done all of that which can be an enormous challenge to many people so acknowledge that to yourself and be thankful that you had the power to do that.
The powerful answers we are looking for very often come from difficult and painful challenges in our lives, so the question that arises is, what is this challenge trying to teach you or what can you learn form this difficult situation.
One possible answer which may be of value to you is this. When we act in any aspect of our lives solely for the right reasons, in other words because we believe whatever our action is, is the right thing to do at any given time, we are acting from our heart and no appreciation or credit is necessary. We are doing it because it is the right thing for us to do at that time. Whether that illicits thanks or recognition from the beneficiary is of no consequence, your actions when this was your intention were your expression or your thanks and recognition to your spirit. I hope this is of some help.
Regards Joe
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