I must say though that I am blessed right now, as I have family and some friends who care about me and that I can trust. I feel the same way for them, and together we share a great many experiences. There is love there. I do not need to strive for romance to find this love.

I do take prudence however when it comes to romance. When we become interested in someone, we could love them and share with them, yes, and this is to me the best situation. However once we think about them too much, this love starts to be replaced by a void, a longing for the pleasures of being with them or seeing them (you can imagine how this also produces grieving for someone who has died). I have experienced a tendency of imagining all sorts of scenarios in my head where I am talking to some girl in my life, but these aren't really fair for the actual person in the real world because now she would have to match up to all my imaginations I've made of her while I could not see her. When we do this too much, I think there's a problem because we won't be able to share love, as we only feel longing for people. I find this puts pressure on us and on others, instead of making us relaxed and simply happy to see the person in question.

Do you notice such a tendency in your life or is this just me?

Anyway, I personally would be happy to find someone I could connect to intimately, but I think the healthiest thing I could do for myself both now and when I am in such a relationship is to relax and find happiness in the things that are already before me and around me.

I'm going to make an analogy now between our computer time and relationships:

We experience what we set our attention on. Right now you're probably not experiencing the sight of all the things behind your computer chair, even though they are very close to you. You might think that the computer is a very big part of your experience right now, even though it is but a small object in the entire room, let alone your entire house.

This fixated attention towards particular things applies to how we experience the relationships in our lives with people, animals, plants, etc... You might be thinking about someone you are very interested in, but nearby you have all sorts of people who have plenty of love to offer you that right now, your attention simply is not aware of. When you feel you are missing love in your life, take your sights off the one you were thinking about and consider those you can trust really do care about you.